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7 Ways You are pushing women away

Pure self-sabotage.

Hey, guys! According to women, dating you these days is like walking straight into a triple titanium shield of armor.

It’s as if you’re preparing for an intense battle. Yet, the battle has no opponent. So, what are you fighting off? Your feelings?

As women, we understand you have a heart to protect. But what happened to giving a girl a chance, or better yet — yourself?

Here are 7 ways you are shutting out the love of your life (and you don’t even know it):

1. You run for the hills.

Whether you’re a jogger or a sprinter, the minute things start to warm up between you and the girl you’ve been dating, you begin running.

The thought of getting too close scares the hell out of you, so you begin to plan your escape route to the nearest remote island.

You start to get cold as you wait for your departure date. You begin to slowly distance yourself as she tries to get in touch with you even more. You are hoping to let her off slowly, so she won’t even notice your disappearing act.

You intentionally book your flight for an extended vacay, hoping she will forget about you by the time you get back.

Owning up to your feelings is out of the question. And even considering her feelings is something you’re not about to do, as it’s too difficult to acknowledge what’s running through you.

As long you continue running, you are bound to end up on “single island” for a lifetime.

2. You’re always fishing for the best.

Dating is your happy place for you. You love reeling in a new catch of the day. The adventurous chase excites you beyond measures and you don’t think about much past the instant gratification. You always think there is going to be a new fish in the sea waiting to hang on your line.

Your search for “the one” is endless, as there are a plethora of options for you to choose from. In fact, there are so many how could you possibly choose just one.

However, while you’re busy being indecisive and throwing girls off your hook, you’ve probably let go of a few good ones.

But, it’s too late.

You discarded them like yesterday’s news. So what happens when the fish stop biting and you realize you let go of the wrong one?

3. You strive for perfection.

You have a mile-long checklist. She MUST have a professional job, be the most confident girl in any room, and look like the woman on the front cover of Vogue. She’s been living in your nightly dreams for as long as you can remember.

Your standards are so outlandish, she doesn’t even exist.

Every girl you date is missing a qualifying factor on your required resume. Her hair is too brown, her legs are too short, her degree isn’t from an Ivy League school, and the list goes on. And you create an excuse for every asset she has to prove to yourself she isn’t good enough for you.

How do you even know who she is when you don’t give her a chance?

And what if she is everything your heart desires to be fulfilled in love? When will you stop judging and look in the mirror to realize it’s you and not her that is sabotaging your happiness?

4. You retreat for hibernation.

You’re a self-righteous homebody who loves the comfort of your own company. You can choose what shows to watch, what toppings to order on your pizza all while sitting around in your sweats from your fraternity days. You don’t have to think twice about someone else’s desires or preferences.

Staying home is your M.O.

The thought of having to go out and socialize and make small talk is the last thing on your mind. Small talk is like death to you.

You prefer intellectual stimulation, yet you don’t give a girl a chance to even say hi for the fear you’ll be stuck in a dreadful convo for hours.

Every weekend you continuously retreat to your man cave as if the woman you deeply desire is going to come knocking on your door. Your lack of getting outside your comfort zone is starting to take a toll.

In fact, you can’t even remember the last time you even went on a date. How can you expect to find someone like that?