If you’ve been in a committed relationship or married, then you know there are certain components to a relationship that you cannot live without in order for it to thrive the long haul.
And, we aren’t talking about sex, humor, or loyalty for that matter. While those things may help you recover from the speed bumps, they will not support the foundation for a healthy relationship.
A healthy relationship starts when two partners are healthy individuals prior to dating and forming a connection. Partners who are able to succeed on their own two feet, not on the comfort of each other or external stimuli.
If you find yourself slipping into toxic cycles of unhealthy partners, then it may be time to look within for answers. Because you can only have an indestructible relationship when you are a hundred percent invincible yourself.
Here Are The Three Traits You Need To Have A Healthy Relationship:
Are you the jealous type? If you find yourself questioning your partner without a valid reason, then it may be time to challenge parts of you that aren’t supporting your relationship goals. By facing your fears, you learn to fully embrace every tiny little imperfection that you have neglected and find self-acceptance. Because when you learn to accept and love everything about yourself, then it no longer becomes a source of weakness, but your superpower.
Perhaps, you dislike your shorter stature. Can you physically do anything about this? It’s very unlikely as you were born this way. The sooner you find acceptance with your physical feature by challenging your mindset, you will be able to see your height from a positive perspective. The minute you see the positive and own it, you set yourself free from it being something that holds you back.
The best way to start building your inner confidence is through daily positive affirmations. You can start by coming up with three affirmations to recite to yourself each morning about imperfections you wish to see in a different light.
It’s your uniqueness that people fall in love with.
By undervaluing your self-worth, you create an open invitation for others to take advantage of your kindness and treat you poorly. The happiest relationships are built on a firm foundation of mutual respect and valuing their partner as an asset to the relationship. And, the only way for a partner to respect you is for you to personally know your worth and value.
When you value you, then others will too.
So how do you value yourself? You set standards of what you are willing and unwilling to accept in your relationship based on your relationship values. And your standards are not about seeing how far you can get a partner to bend over backward for you or placing conditions on the love you give. Standards set the tone of how you respect yourself and wish to be treated by a partner. A partner who knows their worth won’t accept anything less than loyalty, mutual respect, and unconditional love.
While no partner is perfect, boundaries help you work through personal differences to effectively deepen the relationship with a mutual understanding of respect. Anytime you are not being valued in your relationship, you’re gut will reaction will cue you that a boundary needs to be put in place. No matter if you are dating or married, you will need healthy boundaries for a lifetime.
Boundaries are the logical way of meeting your emotional needs within your relationship from a place of confidence and value. If you tend to be reactive to situations that emotionally upset you, then it may be challenging to get your partner on board with meeting your needs.
The best way to begin setting boundaries in your relationships is to start by defining your core values. These are the top five things you cannot live without in order to have a healthy relationship, such as integrity, open communication, family involvement, transparency, just to name a few. When an issue arises in your relationship, this will be your signal to own your worth and speak from a place of value to receive what you need. This lets your partner know you value yourself and want to work with them for the overall health of your relationship.
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