Why Your Friends Give You Bad Advice
When you and your partner get into a fight, who do you call or text first? Probably your best friend, right! It is completely normal to rely on friends and family when you and your partner are at odds. It’s someone you can trust and vent to get things off your chest. Or, maybe you're the type who needs to get out of the house to think about what happened so you make plans to go out with your friends.
Having great friends who support you through life experiences and the ups and downs of relationships is what people cherish for a lifetime!
But, what happens when they give you bad advice? Especially a suggestion that is the opposite of what you value with a romantic partner.
We often hear from clients, “My best friend said to do this….” Or “My mom recommended…” While they may love you and have your best interest in providing sound advice, it may not always be the best advice.
Why? Because they may only see the situation from your perspective. They may even tell you to leave the relationship altogether if they don’t understand your partner or what led to the emotional discord. This is why you need a neutral party to assist in helping you and your partner work through your relationship problems. Additionally, no one even has to know you hired an expert, including your partner.
We help lots of couples work out their disagreements and imbalances, sometimes by working with only one partner. It can be the simplest techniques and insight that will take your relationship to new heights.
Here Are The Reasons You Need To Hire A Relationship Coach:
1. They Are A Neutral Party
Having a neutral party to support you through your relationship challenges can save you from having your friends or relatives tell you to throw in the towel and give up on the relationship. A relationship expert will help you weigh in all perspectives of the power struggle or present behavioral patterns while giving insider tips on shifting the relationship to a more positive place. They will also be able to give you valuable psychological insight, tools, and techniques that will increase emotional intimacy and better communication channels.
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2. They Can Help You Get Your Needs Met
Nowhere in life are we taught communication skills or better yet how to set healthy boundaries with a partner in order to get our needs met. Yet, these two skills are uber fundamental in life and how to become a successful power couple.
A coach will give you the exact scripts or text messages to send to your partner to get your needs met when they feel like arm length’s away. On top of that, we will assist you by getting familiar with your value system which becomes a relationship roadmap to setting boundaries with your partner. You naturally will feel more confident, secure in your self-worth, and have the clarity you need to move forward on your journey of love.
3. They Make Communication Better With Your Partner
If you find yourself in a relationship that is confusing and you don’t understand why your partner is shutting you out, avoiding you, or disrespecting your feelings, a coach will provide you with deeper knowledge and insight as to how come your partner may be struggling to connect with you. A coach with a psychological background and emotional intelligence training, like ourselves, has the knowledge and intuition to give you a deeper understanding that your best friend can’t.
We will also give you tips on understanding what your partner needs and end the distance once and for all.
If you are tired of asking your family and friends for advice that doesn’t quite make you happy or solve your relationship problems, then it may be in your best interest to find someone who can understand your needs and try a new strategy in getting your relationship back on track. Chat with us here and see how we can help you!
