We've all been there. That person who just won't stop texting no matter how many times you tell them you're not interested. Maybe they started out as a nice, normal texter and then turned into a digital stalker.
Or maybe they were always kind of clingy blowing up your phone nonstop and now their behavior is crossing the line into toxic territory. If you're not sure whether your partner’s texting is crossing the line, keep reading.
Texting in a relationship can turn toxic when one or both partners have ulterior motives. Whether it stems from insecurities, the need to seek control, or they are betraying the connection, their text messages can give you clues about what is really on their mind.
Keep in mind text messages can be distorted and misunderstood very easily. The reason is that they can be quickly taken out of context, is a lack of facial expression and body language, and you cannot hear their tone of voice. All these facts account for 93% of communication alone, where words are only 7%.
Here are signs your text interactions have turned toxic. And if you find that you're in a toxic texting relationship, don't worry - there are ways to deal with it!
21 Toxic Texts You May Receive Or Send That Are Destroying The Connection:
“I Won’t Bother You Anymore”
“Enjoy Your Night Out Without Me”
“I Hope It Was Worth It”
“Don't Text Me Again”.....”So, You Really Have Nothing To Say?”
“Where Are You? Why Is It Taking So Long For You To Respond?”
“Calm Down. You’re Overreacting”
“I Don’t Know When I’ll Be Home. Don’t Wait up!”
“You’re Cheating On Me”
“You Are Crazy”
“You’re Acting Like A Child”
“Send Me A Photo So I Know Where You Are”
“I Didn’t Do Anything To Hurt You. You Remember Things Wrong”
“I Hate Your Friends. I Don’t Know Why You Still Hang Out With Them”
“Stop Messaging Me. You’re Annoying”
“I Can’t Do This Anymore”
“I’m Breaking Up With You. I’ve Had Enough”
“If You Loved Me, You Would Let Me Do What I Want”
“I Can’t Believe You’re Still Angry About That. It’s The Past Let It Go Already”
“You’re Such An Idiot”
“No One Else Would Put Up With You. You’re Lucky I Stick Around”
“I’m Sorry You Feel That Way”
More than likely if you are sending or receiving these text messages, it’s a clear sign your relationship could use some major attention. One or both partners’ needs aren’t being met and have resorted to trying to control the other partner through manipulative tactics out of unresolved pain or fears.
If you feel uncomfortable with how your partner texts and communicates with you digitally, it will be best to talk to them openly and honestly in person and tell them exactly how you feel. It may be just a misunderstanding from your end and talking can clear things up to restore the peace in the relationship.
And, if you need further assistance in trying to decipher your parent's texting or behaviors, we are always here to support you. Chat with us here to feel valued, respected, and loved by your partner.