This turns guys off SO fast!
Relationships can take time, and the one thing you should never underestimate is the importance establishing a steady pace.
If you’re the type of person who meets someone one day and then devotes your entire world to them the next, then you are bound to end up in the friend zone on repeat.
Going from A to Z overnight is like driving through the country at a hundred miles per hour and expecting to see the flowers blooming on the side of the road.
You are bound to miss the small details that will support the foundation of your relationship.
Relationships are all about breathing in the fresh air at a consistent rate. Running at lightning speed to the altar will only get you on hung the fence.
It can take months, if not years sometimes to build a stable and healthy committed partnership. And even then you might have to patch up the cracks in the pavement, as you both will continue to grow as individuals.
Here are 5 quick tips for how to build solidarity in your relationship over time, and keep the pace of your relationship at a healthier, happier speed:
1. Take your foot off the gas pedal.
With an intense feeling of lust, your hormones will be flowing, your adrenaline pumping and you won’t be able to contain your excitement even if you tried.
Your heart is literally beating out of your chest at the notification of a text message from your new mate. You start to imagine what it would be like to live together…
HOLD UP, WAIT A MINUTE??
You just met and you want to move in!?
Hmm, time to put this thing in reverse, cause you missed the stop sign back there.
To create a deeper level of connection, you want to begin by focusing on your friendship.
Your friendship is the key to building a respectful, caring bond that will support your lasting love.
By enjoying each other’s company on a friendship level you learn about what your mate’s interests are, how they like their coffee, who their favorite band is, etc. You begin to tap into what makes them unique.
Their personal traits are what attracts you to them on an intimate level beyond sex. This is the just beginning of your budding duo.
2.Enjoy the present — there is no better time than now.
Talking about the future of your relationship will have you back to singlehood in no time at all.
Staying in the present moment creates a continuous momentum of fun, and this is the best part of any relationship.