Feeling confused about what will happen next?
When it comes to your relationship, it can be challenging knowing what to choose and what not to choose. These simple choices could actually make or break your chances of long-term relationship success.
Knowing what’s a healthy decision versus a default reaction can really leave you feeling complex. Healthy decisions support your love goals and honor the relationship as a whole which brings value to your lifestyle. Whereas, default reactions from past relationship experience can keep you back peddling into old habits that don’t serve the relationship, but actually sabotage chances at what you have your heart set on.
How do you know what choices will get you the relationship results you want with your partner?
Here are 6 Choices You Need To Make For A Healthy Relationship:
1.Choose Values, Not Emotion
Your partner is more likely to listen to your concerns and requests when you operate from your values, not emotions. It is much easier for your partner to actively participate in the conversation when they are able to process what you are saying without feeling threatened or emotionally evoked. This will also give them the opportunity to validate your perspective making you feel heard and understood.
By communicating with logic and love versus emotional world winds, your perspective will more likely be seen as a relationship issue not a personal attack on your partner. With emotions typically being one-sided and sometimes a distortion of your beliefs, it defeats the purpose of working better in unison for the greater whole of the relationship. And while emotions aren’t facts, they are still a valid expression in being able to overcome setbacks so each partner feels respected.
When resolving differences between you and your partner, if emotion becomes heightened it will increase the intensity of the topic leading to a bigger issue instead of finding a solution. Using your relationship values will give you the leverage of confidence when asking your partner to align with you as a team while meeting your needs. This will help your partner be more inclined to value you when using emotional state management.
2.Choose Intimacy, Not Sex
Intimacy between you and your partner will sustain the relationship for a lifetime. It’s a deep bond that keeps the connection growing over a lifetime which prevents you and your partner from feeling disconnected, even with life gets busy. It’s that emotional interaction of letting your partner get close to you, so the two you can feel like it’s “us versus the world”.
If you tend to only focus on sexual gratification, then you may be emotionally unavailable or fearful of intimacy itself. Having sex with your partner is healthy part of physical intimacy but it’s not what will keep the two of you connected throughout the years. As your relationship may experience ups and downs and face hard times, it’s the emotional intimacy that will push you to the next level and overcome adversity.
When it comes to sex, you and your partner are likely to encounter more sexual experiences with each other with there’s a romantic attachment. Your partner is likely to want to embrace you in the bedroom because they desire to share a euphoric experience with you.
Sex alone lacks the vulnerability of a healthy relationship