Don’t let it end before it even begins.
Are you tired of guys asking you why you are single? You’re the total package but can’t seem to meet the man you want to be in a committed relationship with.
Don’t worry you’re not alone. Many successful women are single just like you. And they are single because they don’t realize that they’re going about texting the men they like all wrong.
Learning how to text a guy and have him respond positively can be tricky.
With some of the most romantic connections starting online via text these days, you’ll want to know how to send an intriguing text message. Your text will need to have a strategy intact to capture his immediate attention. There is a little more to know about men than what meets the screen, plain and simple.
My client, Kate, has not been in a relationship for over five years. And, it’s not because she can’t get a date. It’s because she is literally slamming the door shut, locking it, and throwing away the key to her heart with the way she texts men.
She’s wilting in her text messages before the relationship can even blossom.
You see, Kate is a totally cool chick who has so much to offer in terms of a relationship. She has a career she loves, superb relationship values, great friends, and considers herself a very loving partner. Oh, and did I mention she has a smile that glows brighter than the moon?
However, there was a missing piece that was keeping Kate single. As soon as I saw her text messages to guys, I knew right away why they were ghosting her — even after they had asked her out on a date.
The messages Kate had sent misrepresented who she really is as a woman.
If you want to get past the texting stage, here are 5 things you should never send to guys on dating apps:
1. You ask him on a first date.
A woman who asks a man on the first date is not allowing the man to lead. This is an immediate sign you are seeking to control the connection. It is innate for a man to pursue the woman of his choice and up to the woman if she grants him the offer.
When you ask a man on the first date, you completely emasculate his masculinity, making him feel defeated before the connection even begins. Not only are you switching traditional relationship roles, you are setting yourself up to be rejected because you didn’t give him a chance.
A gentleman who really appreciates you will ask you out. Just give him a few minutes. There’s no need rush the process when it comes to love. Not to mention, wouldn’t you like to find out if the connection is mutual on his end?
Let him lead and you will become the leading lady in his life.
2. You shut down his flirtatious requests.
Yes, men can and will test what they can get away with, especially on an online platform. In fact, his flirting may come off downright forward or even leave you speechless with his request.
There is a way to handle this without rejecting him or hurting the connection.
First, you’re just a face behind a screen to him in the initial match. So to expect respect from him, it can take a little time to be earned while learning about each other. By setting a boundary with him, this will let him know where he stands with you before proceeding any further.